YAYA Relationship Therapy

CHEMISTRY: The spark that lights your fire. It's the chemistry and passion that brought you together in the first place; the type of arousal that makes your knees quake and gut quiver.

A relationship without chemistry is "luster-less and dead.

"I love my partner, but I am not 'in love' with him/her."

SOLUTION: Fulfill your partner's sexual fantasy without sacrificing your self respect!

COMPATIBILITY is the bridge from lust to love. It's when the 'ME' becomes a 'WE.'

It's characterized by friendship, laughter and conflict resolution skills. It's easy because your personalities click.

A marriage without friendship is strenuous and unfulfiling.

"I love my partner but I don't like him/her."

SOLUTION: End the blame game and admit when you're wrong. Is it more important to be right or to be happy? Stop competing and do something fun together!

COMMITMENT: builds trust, loyalty, security and sense of belonging.

A relationship without commitment is shallow and unsafe.

Lack of commitment contributes to abandonment fears and divorce -- children more likely to join gangs or become bullies.

"I fear you will abandon me, so I will abandon you first."

SOLUTION: Close exits. Disclose hidden bank accounts, name partner (or children) beneficiaries of life insurance policy. Cut off all contact with previous lovers.

COSMIC CONNECTION: Unconditional love and dedicated commitment. It is the vow you make for "better or worse." Actually, it's more about the worse than the better.

A marriage without cosmic connection leads to feelings of despair and fuels fears of growing old alone.

SOLUTION: Plan a ceremony to reaffirm your vows.

CO DEPENDENCY: (healthy variety) Mutuality -- The hidden magic in all relationships. When partners meet each other's needs … MAGIC HAPPENS. Once YOU change for the better, your partner will too. The beauty of relationships is that feelings are fluid and subject to change.

SOLUTION: If you or your partner has lost that 'loving feeling', rest assured that loving behaviors from you will stimulate loving feelings in your mate.
NOW, getting back to your LOVE QUOTIENT. Ask yourself … where are you on the BELL CURVE of LOVE?
Figure out which "C"s YOU are not bringing to the table, and YOU make a personal commitment to double down on what's missing. Rather than nag or complain about it, you fill the void. You correct the course in your relationship. When you change for the better so will your partner! This is healthy co-dependency! These are the five C's that make up the MAGIC of EVERLASTING LOVE! Now, your L.Q. (Love Quotient) is in the BRILLIANT RANGE.

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