Stressed Out? 10 Things NOT to Do
If you want to feel calm and focused no matter what life sends your way, avoid these 10 stress-boosting lifestyle mistakes from anxiety expert Dr. Henry Emmons, author of "The Chemistry of Calm."
Mistake: Obsessing Over Stress
Focusing on stressful thoughts is like rehearsing them. Everything gets better with practice - including stress.
Mistake: Not Taking Time Off
Our ancient ancestors ran and then rested. Too often we just stay on life's treadmill 24/7. Remember, we are human beings - not "doing beings," says Dr. Emmons.
Mistake: Giving In to Cravings
"When you give in and binge, it quickly elevates serotonin levels and you feel temporarily better," he says. "But the levels quickly fall, you feel worse and have more cravings. Moreover, this roller coaster further depletes the brain of serotonin, adding to the problem over time."
In the long run, caving in to cravings is counterproductive.
Mistake: Venting Your Emotions
Mistake: Skimping on Sleep
Mistake: Marinating in Bad News
Does that suggest we should bury our heads in the sand? No. But especially when you're experiencing hard times, make sure you pay attention to what you're watching and hearing news-wise.
Mistake: Seeking Stimulation
Mistake: Playing Video Games
On the other hand, nonviolent games can be a respite from stress. In one recent study, soldiers who played the "building block" game Tetris after witnessing violence were less likely to develop post-traumatic stress disorder.
Mistake: Going It Alone
Connecting with others doesn't solve the problems that cause stress, but it certainly helps us endure stressful periods, says Dr. Emmons.
As the Dalai Lama has said, "We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection."
Mistake: Being a Lump
Moving your body helps you "discharge" those hormones and reset yourself to a relaxed state of mind.