Spice Up Your Valentine's Day With This Expert's Sex Advice For Couples
LOS ANGELES (CBSLA.com) — With Valentine's Day approaching and the movie debut of "Fifty Shades of Grey," couples may be in the mood to spice up their relationship.
CBS2 spoke with expert Emily Morse for tips on how to rekindle romance.
It's a subject that, for some, can be tough to talk about.
"Talking about sex and sex education is really awkward," said Hally Rapp, of Los Angeles. "Culturally speaking we're conditioned not to talk about it."
But Rapp embraces the open discussion about sex education at The Pleasure Chest, an adult retail store where they often hold workshops.
"I feel I learn more about my body and hot it works," said Rapp, who was there for their workshop "The Ultimate O."
The success of erotic romance books such as "Fifty Shades" has broadened the discussion from behind bedroom doors to adult stores, and, even, sexual health expos.
Rapp says it all starts by breaking the biggest taboo of all - just talking about sex: "You can learn a lot, and the stories can be really entertaining and fun. And there's no real shame in that."
According to Morse, "Better sex is about expanding your knowledge about yourself and what's available now."
Morse provides sex and relationship advice on her popular podcast "Sex with Emily," and is a regular guest co-host on KROQ's "Loveline." She recently hosted SHE, a sexual health expo that drew 2,000 people in Beverly Hills, many of whom were couples looking to add some heat in the bedroom.
"Women are mostly concerned about orgasms. The truth is only 30 percent of the women actually have orgasms during intercourse," Morse said. "Men really want to please women, so that's why I think that women need to learn what makes them feel good, so they can let their partners please them."
Morse says one of the biggest mood-killers for the bedroom is self-esteem and body issues: "Sex is about being out of your head and being in your body."
Her tops for keeping the spark in a couple's sex life:
- Know Your Body: "We have unlimited capacity for pleasure."
- De-Stress For Better Sex: "Learn to take the stress level down and connect with your partner, you'll have better sex."
- Connect With Your Partner: Do this throughout the day. Send him/her a sexy text.
- Communicate: Tell your partner what you want and desire in your sex life.
- Sex Toys: Consider using them. "They're available at your local convenience store now."