Understanding Divorce
BOSTON (CBS) - Divorce is a legal and financial transaction. But because it involves usually two angry people, it can be an extremely volatile process.
- There are over 2 million marriages annually in the US: close to 50% of them end in divorce.
- Second marriages don't fare much better with almost 70% (67%) ending in divorce.
- Third marriages; over 70% end up divorcing.
- New studies are showing that children do suffer much more trauma than originally thought after a divorce.
- Massachusetts appears to have one of the lowest divorce rates in the nation based on population.
I'm not sure you should go into your marriage thinking you will be ending it, but you should do some planning. If you are the spouse that does not handle the money in your family, you should be looking over the shoulder of the spouse that does. Marriage is a financial as well as an emotional partnership.
So what should you know?
- Understand what the family assets are and where they are.
- How are the assets owned? His? Hers? Jointly?
- What's the family income?
- What are the family's expenses?
- What assets did you bring into the marriage?
When getting a divorce use a divorce attorney, not the attorney who helped you close on the house. Don't use the same attorney as your spouse and don't use the same financial planner. No advisor can serve two masters.
Matrimonial law is a $28 billion a year industry. Consider using a mediator before bringing in the big guns. This will save you money and money is a big issue in a divorce. Divorces don't come cheap! Love is grand. Divorce is about 20 grand. Many divorces cost more than the wedding.
Make a list of the stuff that is important to you and how are you going to share them. Such as children, real estate, assets, retirement plans, pension plans, stock options, furniture, pets etc. Pets are considered property and may not be subject to visitation rights or shared custody.
One more thing: Get some counseling for the kids. They often think the divorce is their fault.