Being a "perfectionist" vs. an "approval junkie"

In nearly seven years as a contributor for CBS's "Sunday Morning," Faith Salie has weighed in on some of the biggest pop culture questions, from the downside of too many selfies to the meaning of "vocal fry."

But before she became a commentator, she was an actress struggling to please others.

In her new book, "Approval Junkie: Adventures in Caring Too Much," she details her uphill battle of developing confidence and examines her pursuit of validation.

"When you're wantonly trying to find approval from people who are never going to give it to you" -- as with her acting career and her ex-husband -- Salie calls it a waste of time.

Comparing actress Sally Field -- whom she described as "honest" and "raw" in her desire for approval -- to others like rapper Kanye West, who "love to tweet that they don't care what people think and then they tweet back at all of their critics," Salie said, "I think the people who proclaim the loudest that they don't care are maybe not being honest with themselves."

Instead of trying to be a "perfectionist" or "people pleaser," Salie says it's better to be honest as an "approval junkie" -- someone who is "vulnerable and human enough" to admit that they care about affirmation from others.

"Perfectionists won't try from fear of falling short," Salie explained. "An approval junkie tries and falls and takes a bow... I think a real approval junkie is someone who embraces the root of the word an relentlessly tries to prove things to him or herself."